Living in China has opened my eyes to so many things, but the most important may be sexism in America.

onwednesdaysweweartrenchcoats:

I’m a woman. And growing up as a woman in Alabama I’ve always viewed myself as something of an expert on sexism and gender politics. In a state where nearly 1/3 of women face sexual assault (much of that being made up of incest) you don’t ever really feel safe as a woman, often not even with your own family. 

But like so many Americans I’ve always held the belief that as shitty as things are for women in our country, they are so much worse for women in other countries around the world. Living in Togo (where women are oppressed and abused to a truly sickening degree which ALL of West Africa should feel shame over) only reinforced that idea. I assumed before coming here that my experiences in China would be similar, with female students deferring to their male classmates and wives trailing obediently after their husbands. That’s the picture of “Asian” gender relations that I had in my mind.

I was wrong guys. I was so so wrong. The girls in my class? They speak out. If they disagree with what a boy says they will stand and say it to his face in a way few American girls might. They are smart and proud and have so few of the gender barriers and prejudices that we have in the West. And through all of it they have the full support of their male classmates, who put their western counterparts to shame.

Romance is all the rage for young people here, men and women alike. No one forces a 17 year old boy to see a romantic “chick flick” movie. In fact, I had a hard time explaining the concept of that phrase when questioned about it. My students could not understand why romance movies would be seen as feminine. One of the more outspoken boys in my class actually responded to my explanation by asking “so do American men not want to be in love? Why would any woman date them?”

That’s their view on it. Films like The Notebook aren’t for women here, but rather for all young people who are obsessed with dating and finding love. The idea of not wanting love doesn’t seem macho to Chinese youth, it seems jaded and lonely.

Seeing how well gender relations work in daily life in China, seeing how horrified they are when we watch movie clips and they see bits of how women are treated back in the U.S. has really driven home for me how fucked up my own culture’s view of women is.

(via whitmerule)

scared-of-clouds:

thirdtimecharmed:

I like that we who speak English regularly have started leaving the ‘good’ off of ‘good morning’ because now we greet each other with the statement that yes, indeed, it is morning.

An American I know informed me the other day that the thing he finds oddest about Britain is that we use ‘Alright?’ as a greeting. And that ‘Well I’m not dead’ is an acceptable response to this.

(via awkward-crow)

mynameisnotcharlie:

jesusfoodsex:

subite-vene-in-misha:

mostly10:

omfg you guys

the fact that he still has the picture on his phone.
mark, stop it.

The fact that he took that on his actual phone.

Look at his fucking face.
Look at the pride.
mynameisnotcharlie:

jesusfoodsex:

subite-vene-in-misha:

mostly10:

omfg you guys

the fact that he still has the picture on his phone.
mark, stop it.

The fact that he took that on his actual phone.

Look at his fucking face.
Look at the pride.

mynameisnotcharlie:

jesusfoodsex:

subite-vene-in-misha:

mostly10:

omfg you guys

the fact that he still has the picture on his phone.

mark, stop it.

The fact that he took that on his actual phone.

Look at his fucking face.

Look at the pride.

(via two-winchesters-and-castiel)

rupsidaisy:

literallysokka:

patrickdehahn:

Teen schools the United States government, boom. 

The Federal and State Governments switching to Garamond from Times would save $400 million of taxpayer money annually

And a fourteen year old figured this out

this is the funniest thing in the world

(via awkward-crow)

mfluder42:

Pictures and accompanying reviews of Actor/Director Misha Collins’ first directing gig for Supernatural - Part 2 (Part 1)
mfluder42:

Pictures and accompanying reviews of Actor/Director Misha Collins’ first directing gig for Supernatural - Part 2 (Part 1)
mfluder42:

Pictures and accompanying reviews of Actor/Director Misha Collins’ first directing gig for Supernatural - Part 2 (Part 1)
mfluder42:

Pictures and accompanying reviews of Actor/Director Misha Collins’ first directing gig for Supernatural - Part 2 (Part 1)
mfluder42:

Pictures and accompanying reviews of Actor/Director Misha Collins’ first directing gig for Supernatural - Part 2 (Part 1)

mfluder42:

Pictures and accompanying reviews of Actor/Director Misha Collins’ first directing gig for Supernatural - Part 2 (Part 1)

(via pinksatindean)

the-eighth-colour-octarine:

sezja:

gotothemattresses:

thefrogman:

In Soviet Russia, kitten adopts YOU.

You can’t possibly say no to that.

"I HAVE SELECTED MY HUMAN. WE CAN NOW LEAVE THIS PLACE.  HUMAN.  SIGN THE REQUIRED PAPERWORK."

The cat chooses the wizard, Mr. Potter. 

(via luceycantdance)

ferenginar:

yungmethuselah:

If you think all Black people’s blogs are “social justice” blogs, you’re racist.

I read some newspaper article recently that pretty much summed up Tumblr and the responses to it this way—privileged people who come here are shocked to see marginalized people talking about their experiences, so they think everyone’s just obsessed with social justice, rather than talking about their own lives.

(via riotrite)

Always

jimmynovakisaved:

I imagine when Cas first falls, and he and Dean become “something more than friends,” the idea of cuddling/being touched is foreign, almost uncomfortable to Castiel.

But every night, after they’ve climbed into bed Dean will wrap his arms around the fallen angel, bury his face in his hair.

"Wanna keep you close," he’ll often mutter tiredly in explanation.

And for awhile, it’s strange being touched this much by another living thing, and it makes Castiel’s skin feel too tight, and his clipped wings restless. It makes him feel guilty for ever leaving Dean at all.

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Q

Anonymous asked:

Are you still talking about your special snowflake disease, and how you can't go for a walk because of "muh genetics"? Stop making these sad excuses. You're a 30 something year old boy living with his parents. Go enter the real world and lose some weight, and stop campaigning for an unrecognized and unreal "illness".

A

wilwheaton:

thefrogman:

Actually, there is a special snowflake disease. Myasthenia gravis is called “snowflake disease” because it affects those afflicted so differently. 

But I don’t have that. 

If you are speaking of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, I will admit there is not a strong diagnostic test that can prove I have it. But, much like gravity, it can be proven to exist through observation.

You drop a pencil and it falls to the floor.

Doctors test my blood and find a retrovirus that is very common in people with CFS.

You go in one of those spinny things at the fair, you stick to the wall.

Doctors evaluate my symptoms, rule out all other possibilities, and diagnose me. 

I am 32.

I do live with my parents. They are pretty neat. 

I went to the real world last night! I even took pictures!

I am glad I did that, but right now I feel quite miserable. It’s very distressing, I’m in a lot of pain, I cried a bunch because the hangover fatigue was so intense, and I haven’t been able to move most of the day. Which is maybe why I don’t go to the real world all that often. FUN!

I lost about 20 pounds, but for some reason I can’t seem to lose anymore. My weight is an issue I have tried to address for a very long time. It’s hard for healthy folks to lose weight. Would logic not dictate it would be a great deal harder for people with debilitating fake illnesses?

Also, ~50% of my problem is narcolepsy. Which does have a definitive diagnostic test. The treatment is usually stimulants, but in my case the side effects were much worse than the benefits. So even if you think the CFS is a magical concoction of my brain… I have a whole ‘nother crappy disease that makes it totally legit for me to make excuses.

Though… it would be nice if you didn’t throw CFS under the bus like that. It affects millions of people and it sucks plenty on its own. Not just fat folks like me. Skinny people. Old people. Young people. It really doesn’t care. Yet there are a legion of doubtful blatherskites like you who seem intent on adding another layer of suck to this already sucky illness.

Every recognized medical institution says you are wrong.

But hey, gravity is just a theory, right?

The Frogman takes these incredibly cruel and anonymous comments in stride, and addresses them with a grace and dignity that they don’t deserve.

I will add that, as I’ve said before in a video that is currently viral: when someone is cruel like this anonymous person is, it has nothing to do with the person they’re being cruel to, and everything to do with how bad they feel about themselves.

So, anonymous person who decided to be cruel to The Frogman: I hope that you’ll see this, and I hope that you’ll realize that the person you were so cruel to is a human being just like we are, and that he is doing everything he can to find joy in his life. He’s making things that make a lot of people happy (including me), and he’s doing the best that he can.

I don’t know why you decided to spend a little bit of your day being cruel to him, and I don’t know why you thought that being cruel was a really great way to spend that time, but I sincerely hope that whatever is making you so unhappy in your own life, and whatever is making you feel like attacking and trying to hurt another human being is going to make you feel better about yourself actually *does get better*.

I know that you can do something awesome, and I know that you can put something wonderful into the world. I’m so sorry that the people in you life can’t or won’t see that, but trying to hurt other people who are vulnerable won’t make the people whose approval you need suddenly treat you better.

Please, anonymous, try to be the person you want other people to be, and instead of attacking and trying to hurt someone who hasn’t done anything to you, maybe try to be kind to people online and elsewhere.

We attract to ourselves what we put into the world, and though it seems like someone is hurting you and making you feel bad, when you are kind and awesome, you’ll draw people toward you who will make you feel good about yourself, I promise.

littlehollyleaf:

crossroadscastiel:


#look me in the eye and tell me you’re not working with crowley… (via zatnikatel)
#Fun story: I had grabbed this and gone to my Twitter to rant about how this IS S6 CAS #and then I showed it to a friend and said that and she goes THE TAG THOUGH #AND THAT was the point where I noticed Zat’s absolutely perfect tag #Well here’s the difference and why so many people attribute ‘agency’ to Cas while not really doing so to Dean #We’re WATCHING the process Crowley went through with Cas as it happens with Dean #We’re watching Crowley cut Dean’s choices down #Watching him tie his plans to Dean’s sense of self so Dean starts to question his OWN motives #WATCHING him warn for the consequences but offer no alternative thus making the severity of them seem irrelevant #Use his isolation to convince him nobody understands him like Crowley (who only sees the part of him he can use)—nobody KNOWS like Crowley#(Lol and I know I’m echoing myself again but  seriously THIS IS THE SAME THING MEG DID TO CAS) #Demons are EXPERT abusers and manipulators #and self-blaming self-loathing [communicatively unaware] people who are preconditioned by abuse to have perfect buttons to push #are as fucking good as sex for them: while the abused suffers the abuser’s like a kid in a candy store #One small difference here though (perhaps): Castiel’s going to find out about the Mark and about Crowley #and ‘I’ll be the one to carve out your heart when you betray us’ etc. #And here’s the thing friends: you don’t always have to LIKE your abuser and manipulator to feel helplessly led by their desires #PARTICULARLY when you’re a codependent depressive personality like Dean (and Cas) (via selfihateyouithink)


#yep we’re watching in real-time what we only got a very compressed and shallow look into in s6#and note this episode actually pulling out the s6 reminder with the soulless!sam flashback#this is how crowley gets to people#he finds your weak spots and uses them against you#while protesting that he was ON YOUR SIDE and omg what happpened to your SENSE OF LOYALTY#and it is exactly what Meg pulled too in order to stay afloat after her big Lucifer buy-in went south#you can’t trust manipulative people to be honest#whether they pretend to be ~all business~ or ~just like you~#especially if their version of ‘just like you’ means telling you what a terrible person you are#and how you’re down in the dirt with them so you might as well give in and give them what they want#because you’re no better#using their self-loathing against them and telling them what they hate most about themselves#is the only worthwhile thing they have to offer#’a whore is a whore is a whore’ says crowley to cas — you sold out already so you don’t get to pretend to be better than me#’you’re kind of bad… which is all manner of hot’ — we’re both dirty so it’s not like you have any high ground#’takes a junkie to know a junkie’ — you’re just as bad as me#it’s all about reinforcing the other person’s feelings of self-loathing in order to get them to do something you want (via butterflydm)


Nothing to add, totally on point! :D
littlehollyleaf:

crossroadscastiel:


#look me in the eye and tell me you’re not working with crowley… (via zatnikatel)
#Fun story: I had grabbed this and gone to my Twitter to rant about how this IS S6 CAS #and then I showed it to a friend and said that and she goes THE TAG THOUGH #AND THAT was the point where I noticed Zat’s absolutely perfect tag #Well here’s the difference and why so many people attribute ‘agency’ to Cas while not really doing so to Dean #We’re WATCHING the process Crowley went through with Cas as it happens with Dean #We’re watching Crowley cut Dean’s choices down #Watching him tie his plans to Dean’s sense of self so Dean starts to question his OWN motives #WATCHING him warn for the consequences but offer no alternative thus making the severity of them seem irrelevant #Use his isolation to convince him nobody understands him like Crowley (who only sees the part of him he can use)—nobody KNOWS like Crowley#(Lol and I know I’m echoing myself again but  seriously THIS IS THE SAME THING MEG DID TO CAS) #Demons are EXPERT abusers and manipulators #and self-blaming self-loathing [communicatively unaware] people who are preconditioned by abuse to have perfect buttons to push #are as fucking good as sex for them: while the abused suffers the abuser’s like a kid in a candy store #One small difference here though (perhaps): Castiel’s going to find out about the Mark and about Crowley #and ‘I’ll be the one to carve out your heart when you betray us’ etc. #And here’s the thing friends: you don’t always have to LIKE your abuser and manipulator to feel helplessly led by their desires #PARTICULARLY when you’re a codependent depressive personality like Dean (and Cas) (via selfihateyouithink)


#yep we’re watching in real-time what we only got a very compressed and shallow look into in s6#and note this episode actually pulling out the s6 reminder with the soulless!sam flashback#this is how crowley gets to people#he finds your weak spots and uses them against you#while protesting that he was ON YOUR SIDE and omg what happpened to your SENSE OF LOYALTY#and it is exactly what Meg pulled too in order to stay afloat after her big Lucifer buy-in went south#you can’t trust manipulative people to be honest#whether they pretend to be ~all business~ or ~just like you~#especially if their version of ‘just like you’ means telling you what a terrible person you are#and how you’re down in the dirt with them so you might as well give in and give them what they want#because you’re no better#using their self-loathing against them and telling them what they hate most about themselves#is the only worthwhile thing they have to offer#’a whore is a whore is a whore’ says crowley to cas — you sold out already so you don’t get to pretend to be better than me#’you’re kind of bad… which is all manner of hot’ — we’re both dirty so it’s not like you have any high ground#’takes a junkie to know a junkie’ — you’re just as bad as me#it’s all about reinforcing the other person’s feelings of self-loathing in order to get them to do something you want (via butterflydm)


Nothing to add, totally on point! :D
littlehollyleaf:

crossroadscastiel:


#look me in the eye and tell me you’re not working with crowley… (via zatnikatel)
#Fun story: I had grabbed this and gone to my Twitter to rant about how this IS S6 CAS #and then I showed it to a friend and said that and she goes THE TAG THOUGH #AND THAT was the point where I noticed Zat’s absolutely perfect tag #Well here’s the difference and why so many people attribute ‘agency’ to Cas while not really doing so to Dean #We’re WATCHING the process Crowley went through with Cas as it happens with Dean #We’re watching Crowley cut Dean’s choices down #Watching him tie his plans to Dean’s sense of self so Dean starts to question his OWN motives #WATCHING him warn for the consequences but offer no alternative thus making the severity of them seem irrelevant #Use his isolation to convince him nobody understands him like Crowley (who only sees the part of him he can use)—nobody KNOWS like Crowley#(Lol and I know I’m echoing myself again but  seriously THIS IS THE SAME THING MEG DID TO CAS) #Demons are EXPERT abusers and manipulators #and self-blaming self-loathing [communicatively unaware] people who are preconditioned by abuse to have perfect buttons to push #are as fucking good as sex for them: while the abused suffers the abuser’s like a kid in a candy store #One small difference here though (perhaps): Castiel’s going to find out about the Mark and about Crowley #and ‘I’ll be the one to carve out your heart when you betray us’ etc. #And here’s the thing friends: you don’t always have to LIKE your abuser and manipulator to feel helplessly led by their desires #PARTICULARLY when you’re a codependent depressive personality like Dean (and Cas) (via selfihateyouithink)


#yep we’re watching in real-time what we only got a very compressed and shallow look into in s6#and note this episode actually pulling out the s6 reminder with the soulless!sam flashback#this is how crowley gets to people#he finds your weak spots and uses them against you#while protesting that he was ON YOUR SIDE and omg what happpened to your SENSE OF LOYALTY#and it is exactly what Meg pulled too in order to stay afloat after her big Lucifer buy-in went south#you can’t trust manipulative people to be honest#whether they pretend to be ~all business~ or ~just like you~#especially if their version of ‘just like you’ means telling you what a terrible person you are#and how you’re down in the dirt with them so you might as well give in and give them what they want#because you’re no better#using their self-loathing against them and telling them what they hate most about themselves#is the only worthwhile thing they have to offer#’a whore is a whore is a whore’ says crowley to cas — you sold out already so you don’t get to pretend to be better than me#’you’re kind of bad… which is all manner of hot’ — we’re both dirty so it’s not like you have any high ground#’takes a junkie to know a junkie’ — you’re just as bad as me#it’s all about reinforcing the other person’s feelings of self-loathing in order to get them to do something you want (via butterflydm)


Nothing to add, totally on point! :D
littlehollyleaf:

crossroadscastiel:


#look me in the eye and tell me you’re not working with crowley… (via zatnikatel)
#Fun story: I had grabbed this and gone to my Twitter to rant about how this IS S6 CAS #and then I showed it to a friend and said that and she goes THE TAG THOUGH #AND THAT was the point where I noticed Zat’s absolutely perfect tag #Well here’s the difference and why so many people attribute ‘agency’ to Cas while not really doing so to Dean #We’re WATCHING the process Crowley went through with Cas as it happens with Dean #We’re watching Crowley cut Dean’s choices down #Watching him tie his plans to Dean’s sense of self so Dean starts to question his OWN motives #WATCHING him warn for the consequences but offer no alternative thus making the severity of them seem irrelevant #Use his isolation to convince him nobody understands him like Crowley (who only sees the part of him he can use)—nobody KNOWS like Crowley#(Lol and I know I’m echoing myself again but  seriously THIS IS THE SAME THING MEG DID TO CAS) #Demons are EXPERT abusers and manipulators #and self-blaming self-loathing [communicatively unaware] people who are preconditioned by abuse to have perfect buttons to push #are as fucking good as sex for them: while the abused suffers the abuser’s like a kid in a candy store #One small difference here though (perhaps): Castiel’s going to find out about the Mark and about Crowley #and ‘I’ll be the one to carve out your heart when you betray us’ etc. #And here’s the thing friends: you don’t always have to LIKE your abuser and manipulator to feel helplessly led by their desires #PARTICULARLY when you’re a codependent depressive personality like Dean (and Cas) (via selfihateyouithink)


#yep we’re watching in real-time what we only got a very compressed and shallow look into in s6#and note this episode actually pulling out the s6 reminder with the soulless!sam flashback#this is how crowley gets to people#he finds your weak spots and uses them against you#while protesting that he was ON YOUR SIDE and omg what happpened to your SENSE OF LOYALTY#and it is exactly what Meg pulled too in order to stay afloat after her big Lucifer buy-in went south#you can’t trust manipulative people to be honest#whether they pretend to be ~all business~ or ~just like you~#especially if their version of ‘just like you’ means telling you what a terrible person you are#and how you’re down in the dirt with them so you might as well give in and give them what they want#because you’re no better#using their self-loathing against them and telling them what they hate most about themselves#is the only worthwhile thing they have to offer#’a whore is a whore is a whore’ says crowley to cas — you sold out already so you don’t get to pretend to be better than me#’you’re kind of bad… which is all manner of hot’ — we’re both dirty so it’s not like you have any high ground#’takes a junkie to know a junkie’ — you’re just as bad as me#it’s all about reinforcing the other person’s feelings of self-loathing in order to get them to do something you want (via butterflydm)


Nothing to add, totally on point! :D

littlehollyleaf:

crossroadscastiel:

#look me in the eye and tell me you’re not working with crowley… (via zatnikatel)

#Fun story: I had grabbed this and gone to my Twitter to rant about how this IS S6 CAS #and then I showed it to a friend and said that and she goes THE TAG THOUGH #AND THAT was the point where I noticed Zat’s absolutely perfect tag #Well here’s the difference and why so many people attribute ‘agency’ to Cas while not really doing so to Dean #We’re WATCHING the process Crowley went through with Cas as it happens with Dean #We’re watching Crowley cut Dean’s choices down #Watching him tie his plans to Dean’s sense of self so Dean starts to question his OWN motives #WATCHING him warn for the consequences but offer no alternative thus making the severity of them seem irrelevant #Use his isolation to convince him nobody understands him like Crowley (who only sees the part of him he can use)—nobody KNOWS like Crowley#(Lol and I know I’m echoing myself again but  seriously THIS IS THE SAME THING MEG DID TO CAS) #Demons are EXPERT abusers and manipulators #and self-blaming self-loathing [communicatively unaware] people who are preconditioned by abuse to have perfect buttons to push #are as fucking good as sex for them: while the abused suffers the abuser’s like a kid in a candy store #One small difference here though (perhaps): Castiel’s going to find out about the Mark and about Crowley #and ‘I’ll be the one to carve out your heart when you betray us’ etc. #And here’s the thing friends: you don’t always have to LIKE your abuser and manipulator to feel helplessly led by their desires #PARTICULARLY when you’re a codependent depressive personality like Dean (and Cas) (via selfihateyouithink)

Nothing to add, totally on point! :D

(via whitmerule)